Where is personal growth & wellness on your priority list?
by Indroneil, Human Alchemist, A Global Pioneer of Transformational Coaching and a Bach Flower and Gestalt Therapist
Enabling your personal growth and well-being as you manage growth of your business..
Cynthia was a CXO of a reputed FSI who liked being seen as a nice person and went about pleasing her team members and colleagues. That was her style and secret to her successful track record, thus far. To her it was important to serve others and their needs, their will being more important than her own. Over time, she realized that she was being exploited for her kind and good nature. She felt like being a slave, became snappy and often started going into fits of anger and rage. She even secretly carried in herself vengeful thoughts towards others. This started telling upon her relationship with her team members, stake holders and even customers. She also started absenting from work for having developed acute gastritis. Her CEO called and counselled her; even warned her several times. This, over a time, started making her feel guilty and one she day put in her papers, without having a job in hand. Even till date she is looking for a job.
Chandan was a CHRO of a 5000 strong IT services company. He had a problem with taking decisions. He would go around looking for advice, collect hordes of them and then get confused, till deadlines forced him to make a choice, which often turned out to be not the most optimal one. As a CHRO it became a huge constraint for his role which often required him to take instant decisions. Fed up with this glitch in him, one day, he decided to change his role and become an internal coach, much to the consternation of the management. As a coach, he showed up as extremely directional and dictatorial – telling others what to do and how and making it appear as if what he did was for their good. He also started suffering from hypertension and related cardiac conditions. Over a period of time his coachees, some of whom were senior managers, started feeling uncomfortable and oppressed. Soon it started showing up as attrition which the management easily traced to Chandan’s heavy handed behaviour. He was asked to leave.
Gaurav was a founder of a hi-tech start-up. He used to get easily discouraged with small setbacks and developed a pessimistic view towards life. Soon he started feeling like a victim of fate and felt embittered and resentful towards others. He nevertheless kept trying harder and harder to secure customers and investment but failed. His failures became more of self-fulfilling prophecies. Soon he began losing interest in what he was doing and started running the show with a sense of resignation and apathy. This started showing up on the health of his business as his team started shrinking as much as his wallet. He stopped coming to work and eventually was diagnosed suffering from depression.
Notice how, in each of the above cases, because of an imbalanced emotional state and lack of real personal growth, their KRAs got severely impacted.
Can you relate to such cases?
Are you also one of them?
It’s time you take a hard look at yourself and the choices with which you are living your life today. After all of what good is your synthetic happiness and professional success if it is happening at the cost of your personal growth and wellness? Of what good is all the wealth that you are seriously engaged in building, if you cannot enjoy it, with your near and dear ones, being fully alive?
Would like to hear from you
1. What is that one shift you would want to make in your life condition, today?
2. What is coming in the way of you making that shift?
3. What support will you require from outside to help you transition?